Our July bookclub selection is Pool House by Mary H.K. Choi. We will be in conversation with Mary on July 30th at 8 pm EST/5 pm PST. Registration is open.

For newcomers, there is a bookclub FAQ if you have questions about how it all works. And this is what we will be reading for the rest of the year. We’re partnering with the lovely people at Allstora for the Audacious Book Club. Now, you can sign up to have the monthly selections delivered to your doorstep each month! Otherwise, I’ve put together an Audacious Book Club storefront if you want to buy current or forthcoming book club titles.

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THE NEWSLETTER WEEK IN REVIEW

PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL NEWS

I was interviewed by Ty Cole for So.Gay.

Book and project links: Books I’ve Written, RGB Imprint Titles, Rebind: The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton; The Forgotten Occupation.

READING MATERIAL

On July 4th, Nolan Xavier Wells went missing after he allegedly stayed behind on an undeveloped barrier island, without his shirt, phone, or car keys. His body was found two days later. The group of friends who left him behind, all white, and all behaving quite strangely for a group of young men who just lost a friend that was “like a brother.” Each new detail of this case is sadder and more infuriating than the last. He was 18, a football player, a beloved son and friend and so much more. He should be alive. An investigation continues at the family has retained Ben Crump to try and get justice and/or answers for their son’s death.

The president is the ultimate jinx. If he endorses or supports you in any way, RUN! He keeps tacking up ugly gold nonsense all over the White House. Then he wanted to fly around in his new bribe plane that, contrary to his lies, isn’t ready for prime time and he had to get on the real Air Force One and he’s mad about it. In his ongoing mission to absolutely destroy the White House, he is building a granite helipad on the White House lawn. This is all very Pacific Heights. IYKYK!

Maine “wunderkind” Graham Platner, with the Nazi tattoo on his chest, aw shucks, has now been accused of rape. Turns out, he wasn’t properly vetted, and his entire candidacy is a reminder of how the Democrats consistently prioritize the fantasy of a good ole boy white guy with liberal politics, while overlooking other viable candidates who don’t have Nazi tattoos or do crimes. Anyway, his campaign has finally finished imploding and he went out like an asshole.

Mitch McConnell is “missing” and “hospitalized” but no one has seen him or spoken to him in weeks. Republicans are randomly saying they spoke with him on the phone for 20 minutes. He’s dead, right? Very very dead. Very Weekend at Bernie’s but GOP-style.

Mexico is going to pursue legal action against the U.S. after ICE agents killed a man in Houston.

The state of Florida loves killing people.

Former politician Andrew Gillum has been arrested for drug possession, again. Such a sad story.

New nightmare fodder: a guy was partially sucked out an airplane window and then his wife had to hold onto his legs to keep him from joining the ether.

Along those lines, a high rise in midtown NYC is threatening to collapse. Seems bad.

Prince Harry took his wife and kids to visit his raggedy ass family. He also lost his case against the Daily Mail about invading his privacy.

A romance scammer has been extradited to the U.S.

Palestinians are building a digital archive to preserve their culture and place in the world.

Mexico’s World Cup run thrilled a small town in Oregon (and many other places).

It has been five years since Anthony Broadwater was exonerated for a crime he didn’t commit (accused by a famous writer). How did things go so wrong? Pro Publica looks for answers.

As they should, a family is pulling their endowed scholarship from UNCW because of changes in state policies about who can receive certain scholarships. They want the scholarships to go to Black students.

On Tom Colicchio and the closing of his restaurant Craft.

A profile of Tom Carvel. As an aside, Air Mail’s ad situation is really just so garish and it renders the site unusable. A profile of Hunter Biden.

RIP Bonnie Tyler, whose song, “Total Eclipse of the Heart,” I sing anytime someone talks about an eclipse. I had no idea she was Welsh! RIP George E. Johnson.

There’s some new magician drama a-brewing.

A landlord got mad at a tenant for having… too many books? Landlords! Never beating the allegations.

This was an interesting but rather sad story of an heiress’s last days.

The Netflix iteration of Little House on the Prairie is out now.

Pour one out for The Burrito King in L.A. An elegy for New York’s Greek diners. And an appreciation (of sorts) for a popular Los Feliz restaurant.

Here are some books by women of color to look forward to in the fall.

Madonna has a new album out and she’s getting back to her dance roots.

The 2026 Emmy nominations are out. Snubs! Surprises! Oh my!

Some details on Hana S. Sharif’s departure from Arena Stage in D.C. Hmm.

I’m obsessed with Andrés Cantor, who does the GOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLL sportcasting for football. Amazing. Also, the USMNT got dogwalked by Belgium. It was just not a good game for the US at all.

A senator from Paraguay was super racist toward Mbappé, and he had words for her. Also, his team beat hers.

Costco is selling Tim Tams, this Australian cookie my wife loves. I am mostly mentioning this for her but maybe you love these cookies too.

Cookbook author and chef Klancy Miller is raising money for the photography for her next project.

THE RUMPUS WEEK IN REVIEW

Essays:

A Potion for Sadness by Megan Stielstra
Her Bitterness: A Woman’s Choice by Xinyi Song

Comics:

Sleepovers by Kate Isenberg

Fiction:

Nicholas in Reverse by Matthew Wollin
Helen by Pamela Bennett

Poetry:

Low Tide, County Line by Gloria Ogo
senescence by Shira Dentz
Three Poems by Hanif Abdurraquib

Interviews:

A Conversation with Minna Salami by Leslie-Ann Murray
A Conversation with Reyna Grande by Janet Rodriguez
A Conversation with Hasan Dudar by Reena Shah

Culture:

What is Freedom: Sarah Schulman by Sarah Schulman
What is Freedom: Maria Popova by Maria Popova
What is Freedom: Shirley Manson by Shirley Manson
What is Freedom: Shepard Fairey by Shepard Fairey
What is Freedom: Gloria Steinem by Gloria Steinem

What’s the wildest thing a parent, yourself, or someone you know has done to keep up appearances? Were they able to maintain that image and if not, what brought it crashing down?

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I am a 32-year-old English PhD who plans to become a physician, so I volunteer in the basement of a psychiatric hospital with garishly painted walls: mustard yellow, Jolly Rancher green, mouthwash blue. Every week, security buzzes me through to a hallway lined with abstract paintings. My favorite is flecked with small orange splatters. Thin, black lines slash across the right half like tally marks. I walk past it on Friday mornings with an eye roll at how fucked up it is that someone hung that painting in this hall. Then I head downstairs.

My first time watching the procedure, the doctor wouldn’t shut up about his patient’s arms. She was lying unconscious in front of us, electrodes attached to her temples, and he kept talking. “You see all of that scarring? It doesn’t mean she’s suicidal. She cuts herself,” he said, “because she is depressed.” He looked me over and nodded—“someone like you or me might not understand the urge.”

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Assuming you don’t slash open an artery or contract an infection, the risk of cutting is a risk of associations. Non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI)—including behaviors like head-banging, skin-picking, and burning—is correlated with psychiatric diagnoses such as depression and anxiety, PTSD, substance use and eating disorders, increased identity confusion, a poor regard for one’s body, and childhood histories of abuse and/or sexual trauma.

As Sarah Chaney’s Psyche on the Skin makes clear, the history of cutting is also full of associations. Self-injury has been deemed symptomatic of everything from suicidality to hysteria, from ‘a cry for help’ to a so-called manipulative strategy of emotional regulation. Cutting became understood increasingly less as a symptom and more as a choice—and the distinction between those categories became as important as it was inscrutable.

In the mid-1900s, for example, self-mutilation signaled the edge of psychosis—American and British clinicians alike puzzled over patients who were ‘ill enough’ to cut themselves but who in other moments acted completely well. Such cases elided existing diagnostic categories and so were often labeled borderline, a term that Robert Knight’s seminal 1953 paper “Borderline States” insisted “convey[ed] no diagnostic illumination of a case other than the implication that the patient is quite sick but not frankly psychotic.” When psychiatrists eventually formalized diagnostic criteria for borderline personality disorder (BPD) in the 1980 DSM-III, self-mutilation was listed as a symptom. Over 45 years later, NSSI is still associated with stereotypes of BPD in the popular imagination—impulsivity, melodrama, and extreme manipulation.

Controversial today for its pathologizing of trauma, BPD was once one of the few places NSSI could be found in the annals of modern American psychiatry. It wasn’t until 2013 that non-suicidal self-injury appeared as a separate listing in the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), filed in its very back pages amidst the “categories for future study.” Proposed criteria for the would-be disorder managed to span both the intentionally vague—to qualify, self-injury must cause significant “distress” to the patient—and the arbitrarily precise—self-injury must be inflicted at least 5 times, via socially unacceptable means (tattoos, e.g., don’t count), within a single year. DSM-V also listed a self-injurer’s possible motivations: relief from pain, interpersonal conflicts, sometimes “self-punishment.”

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Most doctors only asked me easy questions: “What do you use?” “Have you ever gotten an infection?” “When do you cut?” “Where?” “Do they bleed?” “How deep do you go?” “Do you have a preferred design?” One of them asked me to hold up my arm in front of my laptop so they could see my cuts over Zoom.

I had my own designs at the beginning: long diagonal lines that overlapped to form a grid of diamonds. I used to let the blood congeal between rounds so that my blade hitched a little at each intersection when I made the cross hatches. But diagonal lines didn’t scar, so I started making em-dashes instead, quilting a 4x4-inch square of my forearm with short, shallow, inflamed lines. I’d let patches of them fade into a salmon color and then start again, covering my skin in various stages of recovery. I like it best when the blood lags behind and a crevice forms, shocked empty for a second before it goes red. Some of them healed like that, tiny, colorless, barely visible indentations amidst more visible scars, white and slightly raised. If I pull on the skin, it looks like I’ve wrapped my forearm with thread, very tightly.

After a while I started doing it with my thumbnail too, in class, in meetings. Like I was scratching an itch. Go through enough layers of skin, and clear, watery liquid starts seeping out. I stop before I get to blood. The line swells up; the skin goes white around the edges. The center hardens into a nauseating brown the texture of fruit leather. People believe me when I tell them I burned myself on my curling wand—I cluster the lines near my right wrist so it just looks like I keep scalding the same place. Clumsy. I’ll rip the scab off a few times, to deepen the crevice, until I can hold my wrist at eye level and see a dip in the horizon line. That’s when it bleeds. But no matter how many times I tear off the scab, the cut heals into a dark pink patch of skin. It slowly begins to fade, and then, months later, it raises itself into a small, pillowy mound. I’m bothered by the subtlety of all this, bothered by the camouflage of my freckles, by brown hairs on pale skin. Healing doesn’t leave enough behind.

I want proof, so I google scarification techniques and rub my cuts with exfoliant, then spend the night sleeping with plastic wrap around my forearm. The next day, I think better of it. It’s more honest to hide my training: long sleeves, the band aids I keep in my gym bag, scrunchies, my Garmin, professional-grade concealer that never quite works, temporary tattoos over the scars before family vacations, lies about cat scratches or onion chopping mishaps. Real love has to be offered, not asked for.

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There’s a special hashtag for self-harm on X (Twitter)—#shtw—where people sometimes post pictures of their cuts. Tumblr has a seemingly endless list, including #styro, #sh, #slef harm, #beansblr, and #cvutting. For more than a decade now, major news outlets have been decrying the trend. When public distaste waxes, social media companies institute nominal bans; tech moguls promise to end the romanticization of razor blades and blood. But they do not, and it doesn’t matter that they do not, because a simple internet search turns up images more horrifying than the hashtags’. Lest its algorithms be accused of dumping kerosene on the flames of social contagion, Google pastes the number to a suicide hotline above its photo gallery and asks you if you’re doing okay. The world wide web is full of humiliations, including its proposed alternatives: draw on your preferred zone in red marker, rub an ice cube across your forearm, dance around your bedroom. Reddit recommends stabbing an orange. You can find community there too. There’s r/selfharm for people who take themselves seriously, r/adultselfharm if it didn’t get better, and r/madeofstyrofoam for adolescents with a dark sense of humor and a knack for insider lingo. “Are you feeling mango?” they ask each other on posts with shitty memes affixed to them. “What do I do if I hit styro? beans?” “I feel sewerslidal rn.”

In r/afraidtoask, occasionally a poster wonders if self-harm scars are a “turn off.” Some commenters say no (“I used to cut, so I understand”); some say not if the scars are old (“They’ve put that chapter of their life behind them”). But a lot of them answer with yes (“I don’t put my dick in crazy”). Meanwhile, half the planet Earth is tweeting about the dosages of their psych meds and their relationship problems and their capitalist burnout and their narcissistic mothers. I know about the suicide attempts of people I’ve never spoken to. Everyone on the internet wants me to want them to be saved. Reading X (Twitter) confessions feels like wandering around a world of mimes weeping into each other’s shoulders—performative suffering met with performative care. And I am writing this.

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Welcome to the trauma economy. Value is the measure of how much you deserve care, and your value is determined by your suffering. Worth appreciates when you have no agency in your pain, when you are the one being wounded. The trauma economy hates choices, prefers when agency has been possessed by pain. Most people can garner enough capital to survive if they market themselves. Tell the story of your childhood; tell the origins of your suffering; tell how it’s all engrained so deeply into your psyche that your trauma has become inextricable from your being.

Going bankrupt in this economy isn’t about not having pain. Sometimes it’s a matter of power: cheating politicians, rapists, billionaires, cops. The trauma economy loves a fall from grace. Sometimes it’s a matter of the wrong desire—even celibate pedophiles are reviled. But it’s cutters who the trauma economy really hates. Post your pain on your body, and they’ll siphon your accounts. They’ll clean you out. The only self-infliction worth anything is the kind where they can believe infliction has slipped outside the boundaries of control. Cutters are like millionaires looking for tax breaks, circumventing the rules to inflate their own value. You’d hate me for my calculations. You’d hate me for how many stopgaps there are between me and blood: decide where, how deep, which direction, what tool, how many times. You’d hate me for making so many choices, for using choice to shortcut my pain, but what I wanted was to obliterate my agency: if I hurt myself badly enough, my existence would become someone else’s problem. It never happened. The trauma economy wasn’t buying it. Needing something means you’ll die without it, and I was still alive. My longing meant enough distance from disaster—an endurable deprivation.

I keep trying to get to breakdown, but I can’t do it. I want the kind of care that answers to a need so subsuming it obviates the need for asking. What a terrible thing to hunger for. I discipline my longing by meeting it halfway. I cut enough to desire care but never enough to deserve it. Every time, I wrap my arm in the same blue hand towel afterwards, the one that smells like baby powder, and I lay somewhere—my bed, my couch, the floor—and hold it against my chest, breathing in the scent.

No one can tell me if need is a form of negation or repair. A professor of mine once asked me why I cared so much about breakdown. We were sitting outside at a table in early spring, and I was thinking about decay and fragmentation and dissolution and my dissertation prospectus, and she was drinking orange juice. Both of us were wearing impenetrable sunglasses. A year before, she had texted me a picture of leaves frozen under ice and told me it reminded her of my writing, which, she said, didn’t have a heartbeat. Now she wanted to know if my whole dissertation project had started because I was jealous of people who had breakdowns, because I wanted to have one too. Like when you’re a kid, she said, and your friend has their tonsils removed and gets to eat ice cream, but you’re healthy so you can’t have any. I told her I believed desire was only worthy of being met when it became need, and breakdown was the moment of alchemy. I told her I kept trying to get there but couldn’t.

“That’s some deep, dark ascetic shit,” she said. “You should write that down.”

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Cutting and writing are a lot alike, the same dance between exposure and concealment, the same promise of being read without having to answer to your reader. This essay might be an exercise in redundance. Writing, Maggie Nelson says, is “a mordant—a means of binding color to its object—or of feeding into it, like a tattoo needle drumming ink into skin.” Writing makes explicit some implicit sensation, dissipates my feelings somewhere in the interplay between concretion and sublimation. I can inscribe my pain and maybe learn to trust it. Still, Nelson continues, “‘mordant,’ too, has a double edge…it is not just a fixative or preserver, but also an acid, a corrosive.” Drum color into skin, and you have to wipe away the blood. YouTube offers a steady stream of videos that star girls in their early twenties sitting in tattoo parlors and reflecting on their teenage melancholy before covering their forearm with a predictable tangle of flowers. I fantasize about getting one too, but I keep putting it off. Google doesn’t have much to say about what happens if you start cutting again, over your tattoo this time.

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Psychologists like Margaret Woodruff believe cutting is a form of semiotic violence: “in self-mutilation, the thing, the cut, takes the place of a word, or symbol…what is being communicated is a violent rejection of speech.” But I don’t think cutting rejects speech. Instead, maybe cuts are attempts to expand what it’s possible to think—attempts to communicate the precise moment where desire becomes need, attempts to see a tipping point that lies past the border of language.

I had the feeling that my self was an idea I could never get to. The cuts were bloody and boring, but they literalized the lack.

Philosopher Maurice Merleau-Ponty has a different theory about acts of existential refusal. It’s not just, he says, that anorexia is a “refusal of living” or that aphonia is “a refusal of speaking”—it’s that these are modes of refusal “torn out of the transitive essence of ‘inner phenomena’” and made into “factual situations.” He says it’s in this way that the body is an agent of conversion, capable of “transform[ing] ideas into things.” But what if cutting is the refusal of conversion, a thing that happens when I can’t figure out how to be changed? What if it is what my body does with intransitive inner phenomena, with dead-end emotions of shame, with feelings that can’t become something else? “If the body can symbolize existence,” Merleau-Ponty continues, “this is because it actualizes it and because it is its actuality.” Suicide is the limit case of symbolic transformations. Resurrection is their guarantee. I tried cutting as a kind of compromise, a prologue of self-effacement.

Cuts feel like self-loathing feels, mealy and stinging. They extend the hell of that feeling as they heal: a dry crepeyness tethered to live flesh, an itch that pulls towards a deeper soreness at the seams. For a while I used to go to this one spot in the park, on the river, tucked back off the path and shielded by bushes and the roar of a waterfall nearby. The view from the opposite bank is unobscured, and I used to look straight at the people across the water as I sliced my arm open. Sometimes there were parents there with their children, and I’d think about how horrified they’d be, how they wouldn’t let their kids anywhere near me if they could make out what I was doing. But they couldn’t, and I’d sit there and cut in broad daylight like a giant fuck-you to the world outside my hell.

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Recent scientific literature on NSSI identifies thought patterns associated with acts of self-injury: hopelessness, rumination, self-aversion, maladaptive perfectionism, unstable identity. In study after study, NSSI emerges as a failed feedback loop: a person has an unstable identity, they self-harm to find identity as a cutter, identifying as a cutter impedes the formation of a stable identity; cuts disclose pain in the hopes it will be received, this method for exposing despair leads to its dismissal; media representations aim to destigmatize NSSI, such normalization is accused of heightening social contagion.

To communicate in the language of cuts means alienation. I try to find intimacy, but I keep turning things into myself: the Midas touch of an unhappy solipsist. My kingdom expands, but in the end all it means is that I can’t escape my own control. I keep trying to draw a border around everything. The impulse might be sympathetic: self-defense against profound fear or past pain. It’s also a violent one. I try to possess everything, but the problem is that once you take everything into your borders, nothing survives. I can’t stand up under that kind of weight, but by the time the inevitability of collapse becomes clear, I’ve made all of it necessary, turned it all into part of my survival. It’s impossible for anything to escape the bloody horizon line. Self slices open self and arrives at the same. I can’t get out.

Audre Lorde calls “the ascetic position…one of the highest fear, the gravest immobility.” My professor, the one with the orange juice, says I am an ascetic and that ascetics are scared of need. She says they are people who rush to escape their need by converting it to something else. That something else may be, as Lorde writes, “severe abstinence” and “self-abnegation,” but it might also be cutting, which is often accused of being a self-indulgent, manufactured surfeit of pain, an inability to withstand wanting. Maybe the most fucked up thing in the world is to escape your need by desiring it instead. Cutting is my attempt to survive starvation, but it comes with a blind spot: the acceleration of desire into need at the expense of making those words intransitive.

I had the feeling my self was an idea I could never get to. What I wanted was revelation, but I started to suspect there was nothing behind the curtain. I started to suspect I was the curtain. I had conflated the movements of hiddenness and disclosure. Cuts do this too: show people something while forbidding them to know what, in fact, is there. Like a safety release valve for pain—the relief of passing a flash of your despair on to someone else enables the continued restraint of keeping a lid on your need. I disguise myself as a curtain, so that people look long enough to wonder what’s behind it before deciding it’s something they don’t want to see. In a way, they’re right: if they pulled me aside, there wouldn’t be anything there. My friend, a book critic, is less generous—“in recent years,” she writes in the margin of my short story, self-harm “has been many authors’ (Rooney and Lacey are two that come to mind) go-to mechanism for affording their female characters depth.” She isn’t a fan.

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The protagonist in HBO’s Sharp Objects is a reporter and a cutter with words carved all over her body—wrong, wicked, fallen, laid, drain, cherry, sick, gone. To convey the horrifying specificities of her pain, she carves its literal language into her skin. But Camille’s body winds up speaking mostly of its longing to be read. Everyone is horrified by such an open secret. The show’s characters have a lot of opinions about Camille’s scars—her mother says she’s ruined herself; the cop from out-of-town mistakes his pity for love; her younger sister is enthralled; the teenage murder suspect empathetic.

Sharp Objects features children’s corpses with their teeth torn out, gang rape, suicide, child abuse, and a sex scene that will break your heart, but I can’t stop thinking about smaller, quieter moment. Camille, played by Amy Adams, has just purchased a gas-station sewing kit to mend a tear in her dress. She sits in her car, parked across the street from a funeral, and the camera zooms in on her hand fishing out a needle. Without changing her expression, she pushes it into the pad of her finger. Then underneath her fingernail. Then she pulls up her sleeve and begins to drag it through an old scar.

It’s the banality that gets to me. Pain resurfaces as the most boring thing you can imagine, like reapplying lip gloss in the rearview. There is no desperation; there is no excess; there is no allure. There isn’t even intimacy, no real sense that you’re privy to anything special. She has so successfully severed herself from other people that there’s no possibility of prying, even if we wanted to.

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Psychoanalysis sometimes classifies cutting as an “action symptom”: both the creation of a wound and the representation of one. Russell Brand calls self-harm the simultaneity of expression and destruction. It is the solipsist’s final try at connection, an attempt to, as he puts it, “reac[h] beyond the confines of the self.” Dr. Sharon Farber suggests that “these gestures say what cannot be said in words.” But cutting is a muddied method of half-translation. It articulates pain without any specificity, speaks only of a self that is trying to speak. My cuts are self-inflicted, self-sited, self-suffered. What is a wound when it isn’t an opening onto something else?

Henri Bergson offers an answer: cuts are a way to perceive things, like time and the totality of relationships, that would be invisible without distinction. For Bergson, reality isn’t fixed moments, fixed things, fixed states. Reality is change. But our intellects cannot discern this change. In order to try to understand the endless, vital process of becoming, we make a kind of perceptual flipbook, slicing arbitrarily through the stream of transformation, as if we could pause on one frame to look at things more closely. We cut to know. But our “action is discontinuous…; discontinuous, therefore, is knowledge.” We make a stop-motion film of ideas and then forget that we’re watching a movie at all.

According to Bergson, knowing things intellectually requires standing apart from them and turning them to stone: “Instead of attaching ourselves to the inner becoming of things, we place ourselves outside them in order to recompose their becoming artificially”; “We are at ease only in the discontinuous, in the immobile, in the dead.” The “idea of reality” that we glean from this practice is a system that sees in itself “nothing accidental, nothing contingent, nothing that must be regarded as a philosopher’s fancy.” But Bergson sees the real work of philosophy as that of naming precisely this accident: its task is to describe the relationship between the way we experience life and the way we know it. Amy Adams, it’s been reported, couldn’t stomach the thought of filming Sharp Objects for a second season: “Amy doesn’t want to live in this character again,” said HBO’s president of programming, “and I can’t blame her, it’s a lot to take on.” Something about cuts is, even for an actress, all too real.

Karen Barad, a physicist turned Professor of Feminist Studies, believes cutting marks the end of metaphor, a representational device that supposedly insists on an essential separation between an object and its analogy. They agree that the distinctions we perceive aren’t given—they’re a practice. And like Bergson, they call this practice cutting, or the act of making a kind of improvisational separation. But they also insist that what is in relation is shaped by how it’s in relation. Crucial to their theory is that the way we look participates in making the reality we see. Cuts aren’t just ways of thinking about reality—cuts are ways of transforming reality.

If I take Barad absolutely literally, the way I create when I write (cutting), and interact with other people (cutting), and touch things (cutting) is the same form of creation as dragging an X-Acto knife across my forearm. Between experience and knowledge, between object and analogy, stands this essay. Sliced-up flipbooks of disclosures and displacements.

The cutter is a philosopher is an alchemist is an action symptom.

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I haven’t dragged an X-Acto knife across my forearm in months. Maybe a year. Maybe two. I stopped counting, stopped remembering the last time I did it, and that surprises me. It feels impossible that I haven’t turned the distance into some kind of monument, that this act which constituted my thinking can suddenly be excised, that I wouldn’t walk around feeling like I carry some big secret. I pass glasses of water to post-procedure patients with keloid scars and feel a visceral pull towards the top drawer of my desk, where the old blood-crusted blade waits. I don’t open it. Right now I don’t need to.

Still, every Friday, when I don my red polyester volunteer coat before entering the hospital, I have a small existential crisis about how easy it is to transform from would-be patient to wannabe doctor in the eyes of whoever might be watching. I think about how much harder transformation would be if they knew what I was. Then I think about the patient who came to the clinic with violently textured forearms. They couldn’t stand to watch the IV needle penetrate their wrist—“It looks disgusting!” Their nurse found this ironic. “It can’t look any grosser than all of this stuff,” she said, gesturing towards the scars.

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I want to be a doctor because the doctor that saved my life finally heard my urge to cut. I want to be a writer and a doctor, because both are ways of making something, over and over again, from the metaphors she gave me. When I told her I couldn’t get close to anything, she said intimacy was more like an archipelago than I thought. I will spend the rest of my existence living with what that means. Every day I understand the image differently. This morning I read dictionary definitions—“a group of islands”; “a sea or stretch of water containing many islands”—and wondered if intimacy would be the islands or the water or how the water contained the islands.

But maybe, in the end, intimacy is the metaphor itself: I want to be an archipelago. I want to be a doctor who knows the urge. I want to be a container that was once what it holds: a container that knows, as a result, how to hold it well.

Our July bookclub selection is Pool House by Mary H.K. Choi. We will be in conversation with Mary on July 30th at 8 pm EST/5 pm PST. Registration is open. If you missed our conversation with Douglas Stuart, it is up now.

For newcomers, there is a bookclub FAQ if you have questions about how it all works. And this is what we will be reading for the rest of the year. We’re partnering with the lovely people at Allstora for the Audacious Book Club. Now, you can sign up to have the monthly selections delivered to your doorstep each month! Otherwise, I’ve put together an Audacious Book Club storefront if you want to buy current or forthcoming book club titles.

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THE NEWSLETTER WEEK IN REVIEW

PERSONAL & PROFESSIONAL NEWS

Here’s a brief interview about our efforts at The Rumpus on Bookstr.

Book and project links: Books I’ve Written, RGB Imprint Titles, Rebind: The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton; The Forgotten Occupation.

READING MATERIAL

The White House has long targeted the Smithsonian and now they have conjured up a stupid, afactual report full of nonsense.

Trump is also flying around now in his new plane gifted by Qatar. Nothing to see here.

In better news, his great American state fair was a total bust. Embarrassing.

It should be of no surprise that the food safety net in this country, one that has long been frayed, is threadbare under the Trump administration.

The Supreme Court is allowing Trump to end TPS protection for Haiti and several other countries. They also ruled that asylum seekers can be turned away at the border. They are, however, saying Trump cannot end birthright citizenship.

Graham Platner has now been accused of sexual assault.

America is 250. Here’s how some cowards chose to spend their time, looking like Temu Klansmen. Related: Megyn Kelly’s mask is fully off. (Was it over on?)

Pete Buttigieg was swatted. Our political system seems irreparably broken.

In NYC, Mamdani’s chosen candidates did well for themselves.

There has been another ransom note for Savannah Guthrie’s missing mother, but this one says that Nancy Guthrie has died.

Europe is dealing with terrible heat waves. A warming planet is impossible to escape.

Men always want to be colonizing something, even if it is impossible and means certain death.

There are so many different ways that people cope with grief and one such way is writing letters to those who have passed away.

This in-depth article explores the question of who we should hold responsible when teenagers make grave, life-altering mistakes.

The 99 Ranch grocery stores are being sued for discrimination.

An author re-reads Mark Twain against the realities of the current sociopolitical moment.

An overzealous Knicks fan stole a trash can and lost her job.

A profile of Paul Williams, a Black architect who had a major impact on the architecture of Los Angeles. A conversation with Robby Hoffman.

RIP Clive Davis.

White people get up to such interesting activities. A woman rowed a little boat, alone, from California to Hawaii.

Dua Lipa is opening a library of banned books in Portugal! That such a thing is needed, alas…

For some reason, Kylie Jenner has gotten into business with Meta Glasses. Her Meta frames are not attractive to me.

An author is seemingly unhappy with the film adaptation of her novel.

Prince Harry’s family is so raggedy. They just stay raggedy, raggedy, raggedy.

Never forget that Andrew Tate is repulsive in every possible way.

Apparently, ranch dressing is very popular with World Cup attendees from other countries. I hate ranch which is a little funny because I’ve never actually had ranch. But it just looks gross and smells gross and that’s all the information I need.

As the tournament continues, there have been upsets. Neymar is done playing for Brazil. Norway is doing pretty well and everyone is obsessed with a Viking-esque player. Trump, who ruins everything, intervened over a red card an American player received. FIFA acquiesced. Everyone is mad. Haiti is out of the world cup but they warmly embraced at home. Messi loves kicking balls.

In tennis news, Naomi Osaka beat Sabalenka. This is very pleasing to me.

When runners can no longer run, they grieve. Can’t relate.

An interesting piece of criticism about the new LACMA Geffen galleries.

The woman whose dog was killed by LAPD is suing the city. AS she should.

I have been doing crossword puzzles for about forty years now and they are popular again! Yay! It is good to be a cruciverbalist.

Taylor Swift got married. At Madison Square Garden LOL! We happened to be in the city at the time. It was FINE. Nothing was disrupted. We were not invited which makes sense as we don’t know her. Can you believe the Times covered this extensively?

In queerer relationship news, Karamo and Jussie are dating??? That’s going to be messy. I like it.

Lin-Manuel Miranda is bringing Warriors to Broadway next season.

All those protein people are creating a cottage cheese shortage. What?

Olivia Rodrigo created a new lady music festival!

THE RUMPUS WEEK IN REVIEW

Culture:

What is Freedom: Nell Irvin Painter by Nell Irvin Painter
What is Freedom: Lydia Davis by Lydia Davis
What is Freedom: Vincent Valdez by Vincent Valdez
What is Freedom? by Roxane Gay and Debbie Millman

News:

The Rumpus Initiatives Cycle 1 Winners by Roxane Gay and Debbie Millman

Essays:

Shorty by Hadas Weiss
He Could Be Like Cronus by Karo Ska
Wake of Weight by Alicia Steigerwald
Big Beautiful Home by Vonetta Young
Testimony by Susan Nguyen
American Brasswood (Tilia Americana) by Blue Đào Nguyễn

Fiction:

Among the Believers by Raja’a Khalid
Sunday Scaries: The Body Monstrous by Jennifer Hudak
F-Stop by Yvonna Conza
Cariñito by Katey Linskey
Sunday Scaries: Lu’s Laundry and Other Services by Wen Wen Yang

Poetry:

Two Poems by Maja Lukic
Three Poems by Lauren Kalstad
Three Poems by Emily Hockaday
Three Poems by Genevieve Hudson
Leaving Paradise by Lena Moses-Schmitt

Three Poems by Genevieve Hartman

Reviews:

Kafka in Kashmir: Zahid Rafiq’s “The World With Its Mouth Open” by Mishma Nixon
Consider the Rooster by Natalie Coe
Under Surveillance: Benjamin H. Snyder’s Spy Plane by Jack Lewis

Interviews:

A Conversation with Maya Jewell Zeller by Gabriela Denise Frank
A Conversation with Toni Ann Johnson by Leslie A. Lindsay
A Conversation with Richie Hofman by Armen Davoudian
A Conversation with Davin Malsarn by Geoff Graser
A Conversation with Mario Elías by Edgar Gomez
A Conversation with Glenn Dixon by Allison Wyss

Comics:

Am I Asian American? by Nidhi Chanani

Mary H.K. Choi’s debut novel, 2018’s Emergency Contact, opens with the particular and unrelenting embarrassment of a teen girl whose mother happens to be a MILF. Choi’s protagonist, Penny Lee, is just four days from heading off to college and is at the Apple store with her mom, picking up a promised new phone, when disaster strikes. Penny’s mom, Celeste, gets chatted up by the father of one of Penny’s high school nemeses, the very rich and very mean Madison Chandler. (And we do love nemeses around here.) While Penny tries her best to grab her phone and her mom and get them both out of the store, Madison uses the opportunity not only to call Penny’s mom a slut, but to lace her vitriol with a racist trope that is both hateful and woefully incorrect:

“Seriously, what’s with your mom’s geisha whore outfit?”

…First off, geishas weren’t prostitutes. Common mistake. Typically made by the willfully ignorant and intellectually incurious. Some geishas beguiled their clients with dance and artful conversation like in Memoirs of a Geisha, a novel Penny adored until she discovered some rando white guy had written it…

“We’re Korean,” whispered Penny. Madison’s lip twitched in confusion, as if she’d been informed that Africa wasn’t a country. “Geishas are Japanese,” she finished. If you’re going to be racist you should try to be less ignorant, although maybe that was a contradiction…

The scene between Peggy and Madison captures the sharp and specific cruelties teens are capable of inflicting on each other as well as the sometimes hilarious ways in which those cruelties begin to disintegrate when interrogated. Choi’s second and third novels, are also set in the world of teenagers and are deeply attuned to the nuances and complexities of adolescence. This is, in great part, thanks to Choi’s own investigative work. Prior to writing Emergency Contact, Choi wrote an article for Wired that required that she closely observe the lives of teenagers across the country and become familiar with their habits and behaviors.

Choi’s fourth book, Pool House, is her debut in adult fiction; some might claim that it is a sharp departure from her previous work but that isn’t the case. Pool House carries both the echo of Penny and Celeste’s relationship and Choi’s diligent reporter’s eye, this time attuned not to teenhood, but to motherhood and Hollywood. Pool House centers the lives of Stevie, a 20-something working at a chain restaurant, and her mother Moon, who once had a somewhat successful career in B-movies and television, primarily on a sitcom called “Wabi-Sabi.” Pool House opens with a tension similar to the opening of Emergency Contact: Stevie both admires her mother’s beauty and laments that she does not measure up. Both Stevie’s reverie and her insecurity are interrupted not long after by the death of Mac, who was both Moon’s real-life lover and her sitcom husband.

The novel unfolds through the viewpoints of Stevie, Moon, and Adam, Stevie’s former sitcom son and Stevie’s crush, who comes to stay with them after Mac’s funeral. The novel is compact when it comes to plot, but expansive when it comes to character: the narrative rotates through each character’s interiority, their many iterations, and their performed roles in a way that is both kaleidoscopic and discomfiting. The scripted family of the sitcom screen and the characters of the novel’s world become refractions of one another, challenging our ideas about motherhood, aging, celebrity, and allegiance.

Pool House is an astute and unsettling novel, one that asks us to question our understanding of family, a book that exposes the cult of celebrity to the most unforgiving light. I’m looking forward to discussing this fascinating book with you throughout the month of July. We’ll be in conversation with Mary on July 30th at 8 pm/5 pm and you can register here.

What are your initial impressions of Pool House? And have you read any of Choi’s previous novels?

P.S. Read Mary H.K. Choi’s incredible essay, “My Mom” as a bonus.

As we come to the end of the month, what did you think about John of John, overall?

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