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Meghan Riordan Jarvis's avatar

Absolutely stunning writing. Couldn't catch my breath. I have a garage where I break plates (the kind from greek weddings) on the cement floor when I need to let rage out and through me. I will break plates in your name today. Your words and your experience matter deeply.

Notes from the in-between's avatar

Wow, Jillian, this is amazing. I held my breath through this essay, coming up for air only when my body reminded me it was needed. The weaving of fact, history, fear and your experience is so beautifully executed. Thank you for sharing this story.

Leena Dillingham's avatar

Deepest gratitude for your courage and searing,spilled hot tea, written testimony.

Fran Stephen's avatar

the power behind writing this is beyond comprehension. I am so sorry you had to experience this and am moved to tears. Thank you for sharing.

Elinor Abbott's avatar

Thank you for your bravery in writing this— it’s beautifully crafted and devastating. I am so so sorry

Mindy Morgan Avitia's avatar

Thank you for writing this and being another woman to help smooth it over.

Your metaphor was beautiful and delicate and scolding.

The Radical Individualist's avatar

Is it out of the question to name the guy right now?

Kate Delhagen's avatar

Spill the M*fing tea.

alexandriaroswick's avatar

“The powerlessness of NO.” This will be one of those essays that sticks with me. The craft, the depth, the rage. Reading felt like I was the water in a kettle: gradually heating with each paragraph adding another layer of resentment. “Normalcy.”

I. Murphy Lewis's avatar

Brilliant. The juxtaposition between the worlds of reality--the tea drinkers and the non--still being raped. "The powerlessness of NO." Of tea being used as poison for entry, for rape and the planters of tea never being allowed to drink the tea but being raped by their supervisors. Tea as abusive, as a different metaphor for lives mattering. Thank you

Patricia Knox's avatar

Devastation and civilized ritual should be, but is not, an oxymoron. You are powerful and I am so grateful for you.

Kate Delhagen's avatar

All the sympathy and none of the tea to you for this devastatingly powerful essay.

Jolie Thomas's avatar

I recently visited my daughter in NYC. She took me to tea at the Tea and Sympathy tea room in Greenwich Village. It seemed a coincidence that I should receive an email and read your beautifully written story. Thank you so much to adding such depth to my experience there.

The Poet and the Baker's avatar

What a heartbreaking and beautiful story. It feels like a necessary read. I am going to look at my morning tea a lot differently today.

Michael's avatar

Very powerful, thank you Jillian.

Holly Wiel's avatar

I will be thinking about this for days, and beyond. Thank you for sharing this.

Hrönn Brynjarsdóttir Holmer's avatar

wow. just wow. thank you for sharing. i believe you.