I was recently assaulted, at a gathering of friends. I just helped my friend get to bed and she asked me to take her cell phone next-door so that her husband could charge it. I brought the cell phone in, gave him a hug, and he grabbed my chin and yanked it around so it would put us lip to lip. This happened once before five years ago and I told him never never do that you are my friends husband that makes you like a brother to me.
So for some reason he chose to do this behavior again. Both times were at the same gathering, and both times were when we were not around other people. The first time I didn’t want to hurt his wife’s feelings so I had a deep talk with him and that was that I thought
Now he’s done this again and I told everybody I think it made people at the gathering uncomfortable but I don’t care. If a place is going to be safe for me, then I am safe to say hey, somebody assaulted me. And if I consider grabbing my chin and forcing it to someone’s lips, then that is assault.
My friend took up for him, saying that she had given him the wrong idea that the gathering was friendly, and that sort of way, so we no longer talk. I am the one who may be ostracized for this, and it really helps me to identify, how safe my community really is.
By the way, I am 69 years old. I am not a little teenager, but I don’t walk with a man’s arm around me who would probably intimidate this asshole into treating me respectfully.
Thank you for this thoughtful truth tailing. It’s about time most of my 69 years I have been assaulted and kept my mouth shut no more.
angry angry angry. thank you for your work and your storytelling. it helps me feel seen.
And this video is how I feel about sexual assault!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJTOFKslKU0 (Kristina Wong throwing cats 🐱 hosting "Rage, She Wrote" at ALOUD at the LA CENTRAL LIBRARY 2/2/24)
I was recently assaulted, at a gathering of friends. I just helped my friend get to bed and she asked me to take her cell phone next-door so that her husband could charge it. I brought the cell phone in, gave him a hug, and he grabbed my chin and yanked it around so it would put us lip to lip. This happened once before five years ago and I told him never never do that you are my friends husband that makes you like a brother to me.
So for some reason he chose to do this behavior again. Both times were at the same gathering, and both times were when we were not around other people. The first time I didn’t want to hurt his wife’s feelings so I had a deep talk with him and that was that I thought
Now he’s done this again and I told everybody I think it made people at the gathering uncomfortable but I don’t care. If a place is going to be safe for me, then I am safe to say hey, somebody assaulted me. And if I consider grabbing my chin and forcing it to someone’s lips, then that is assault.
My friend took up for him, saying that she had given him the wrong idea that the gathering was friendly, and that sort of way, so we no longer talk. I am the one who may be ostracized for this, and it really helps me to identify, how safe my community really is.
By the way, I am 69 years old. I am not a little teenager, but I don’t walk with a man’s arm around me who would probably intimidate this asshole into treating me respectfully.
Thank you for this thoughtful truth tailing. It’s about time most of my 69 years I have been assaulted and kept my mouth shut no more.
angry angry angry. thank you for your work and your storytelling. it helps me feel seen.
And this video is how I feel about sexual assault!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJTOFKslKU0 (Kristina Wong throwing cats 🐱 hosting "Rage, She Wrote" at ALOUD at the LA CENTRAL LIBRARY 2/2/24)